Hidden by parents and SNS until midnight!How should I limit my daughter who is addicted to the swamp?[Daisuke Ogawa's child -rearing consultation room]

Dr. Daisuke Ogawa, the author of the book "The parent of the child who can learn by themselves," and Daisuke Ogawa, the author who is worried about the troubled parents. We will answer all kinds of concerns related to child -rearing, such as "I'm worried about this kind of place of my child", "How to treat me, is this okay?" Click here for the 94th series of worries. ■ [Trouble] There is a daughter of a small 6 examinee. I need to sleep, so I try to put it asleep at 10 pm, but a suspicious sound from her daughter's room the other day after midnight. When I was worried, her daughter was watching Tiktok on a tablet. On the tablet I used to use in the past, I completely forgot the existence of it, but I found it from somewhere and connected the Wi-Fi without permission. At that time, I told you that if you do not sleep well at night, you will be sleepy at the cram school the next day, and that Tiktok is a swamp that is endless, so it is not the content to choose at this time when the exam is close and the time to use is limited. 。 She also said, "I'm sorry," but I suspect that I would hide it again, and if I heard a little noise in the middle of the night, I got angry with "sleep fast." 。 The group LINE of the small 6 daughter is a lawless zone! How far should parents get involved? [Daisuke Ogawa's child-rearing consultation room] In addition, the fact that I found a tablet and connected it to Wi-Fi without permission, registered on SNS, I did not imagine myself, so I was very shocked. was. If you look at the place where you jump to SNS easily, you may be worried that it is a type that is easy to get caught in something like "send a stamp, so please send a photo". Nevertheless, parents can't keep watching, and in this era I feel it is difficult to keep all risks away. I am worried about how to see how to get along with SNS in the future, including now in the exam period. (W, 43 years old) ■ [Answer of Mr. Ogawa] I think that each of you are making rules at home, but the important thing when deciding on the rules is to hear "what kind of understanding do you understand about SNS". Regarding the time and the content of the exchange, it is not a "clever" reply for adults, where the line of "about this" is "this is fine". To tell us what you think. Even if you try to set up the rules that your parents are pushed without listening to your thoughts and thoughts, it will be difficult to protect if you are not convinced. After all, it can be hidden and do it again. Then, let's talk about the thoughts as a parent. You have to tell you that SNS such as Tiktok cannot be stopped by yourself, and that if you touch it easily, you will not be able to sleep again. And because I can't stop it myself, I will tell you how to enjoy it safely, such as "see where you want to see" and "you can see it anytime", and consult with the person. I think I have to decide. ■ I was worried about the rules that convey the attitude of trusting instead of doubting my child, because my mother doubted her child, saying, "I'm hiding again." If your mother thinks, "Can't you follow the rules anyway?" Children try to respond to what they are trying to trust, so if you think "I don't believe it anyway", the rules themselves will be reduced. First of all, her mother changes her way of involving her. She needs to tell him, "I'm thinking of believing in you, so let's make the rules together." ■ Write the rules on paper and visualize and decide on the rules, so be sure to write them on paper. Writing a goal on paper is the same as getting better, and it is very important to be visualized. Seeing it will increase your consciousness. If you end up saying it, you will often be nervous, so make sure that the rules you have decided are clearly cultivated. And it is also necessary to praise occasionally to follow the rules. He touches the parents' thoughts that they are watching properly and trust them properly. That way, you will understand that there are rules to protect your own health, so I think you will be more likely to follow the rules. ■ Respondent Profile Daisuke Ogawa educator. The chief counselor of the Junior High School Examination Information Bureau "How to use Kashikoi Juku". After graduating from the Faculty of Law, Kyoto University, he founded a professional private school specializing in coaching. Establish a unique know -how to instantly see the characteristics of each child and make use of the strengths of the person to achieve a short -term performance. The number of individual interviews is 6,000 times, and it has a reputation for training the ability from the lower grades of infants and how to build parent -child relationships. He is also active in each media. The latest issue is "Subaru Susha)" Subaru Shaku). We are also transmitting information on the Youtube channel and official LINE account of Daisuke Ogawa. Sentence = Akiko Sakezume